By Ashley McIlwain What happens when your spouse disappoints you? What if you’re not happy in your marriage, and you’re convinced there are greener pastures awaiting you? What if what you thought you signed up for with your spouse and marriage doesn’t exactly align with reality? What if your spouse doesn’t deserve your love? What
By Dr. Jeff Klick Most of us struggle with our past. We have failed, sinned, and generally messed up somehow someway. While this struggle is tough enough for our own minds to deal with, it is compounded when we marry. "The two shall become one," is a Biblical truth. Our reality often falls short of
By Ashley McIlwain It had been one of those weeks. One thing after another, and yet nothing major. Just small dings, bumps, and bruises that began to add up and weigh on me. As the week went on, I felt like a 2 liter of soda being shaken harder and harder with the pressure mounting
By Ashley McIlwain Like most ladies out there, I grew up on fairytales. Those feel-good Disney movies filled with princesses, princes, singing, castles, “true” love, and happy endings. My sisters and I would dance across the living room twirling, singing, and acting out all of our favorite parts. All the while, deep down inside creating
By Steve McIlwain Hubs here. It was 1990. The sun was setting on 80’s glam rock: Twisted Sister, Poison, Cinderella, and Motley Crue had reached their apex and were fading into the rear view mirror. Van Halen, Bon Jovi, and Guns N Roses reigned supreme. Nirvana, Pearl Jam, Alice in Chains, and Soundgarden were primed
By Ashley McIlwain Something that many of us don’t realize is that the decisions we make linger long beyond when they are made. This is a fact and realization I wish I’d come to fully discover and appreciate much sooner in my life because it would have saved me a lot of heartache. At the
By Ashley McIlwain I wish so badly that, when we walk down the aisle as bride and groom, we could see each other for all that we really are. Past the pure white and big smiles. Past the euphoria and excitement. Past the notion of a “perfect day.” Instead, transparent with our brokenness, baggage, issues,
By Dr. Jeff Klick While earning two doctorate degrees, a foundational principle was hammered into my brain - look for presuppositions. Underneath every thought, vision, and action lay something that motivates and underpins. With every thought and action taken, each of us functions with many pre-assumptions. For example, I operate under with the presupposition that
By Ashley McIlwain Life has a way of keeping us on the go. We feverishly check items off of our to do list only to find ourselves adding even more to the end of it. Our calendars are full, our lives chaotic, and our emotional and physical tanks down to fumes. Sadly it’s our marriage
By Ashley McIlwain Marriage means game over. Or at least that’s what people seem to think and say. T-shirts are made with that message on it. “Everything changes, man, once you get married.” “You sure you want to get married? Your life will be over!” Ever heard any of these things about marriage? I know
