By Ashley McIlwain Do you have eyes but fail to see, and ears but fail to hear? Mark 8:18 “You hurt me so badly! I am devastated!” says the wife. “Well, you hurt me too, and you don’t know what I’m up against at work,” replies the husband. “You don’t care at all about me!”
By Ashley McIlwain Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you. –Ephesians 4:31-32 If there is one guarantee in relationships, it is that you will
By Ashley McIlwain If there is one thing I can guarantee you about your marriage, it is that your spouse will hurt you. You read that right. Your spouse will inevitably hurt, disappoint, frustrate, and anger you at some point in time during the course of your marriage. The reverse is true as well. You
By Ashley McIlwain Perhaps you’ve seen it. It’s a blog post that’s gone viral called Marriage Isn’t For You. I’ve had countless people send the link my way telling me that I need to check it out, so I did. In the blog, a newly married husband shares about some wise advice his father gave
By Ashley McIlwain We are all motivated to do things for various reasons. Money, success, fitness, status, stuff, popularity. Whatever the motivation, we all find some purpose to fuel our day-to-day behaviors and choices. What about in your relationship or marriage? What fuels your actions there? Your spouse asks you to take out the trash
By Ashley McIlwain Inevitably, as a couple, you will make many big decisions during the course of your relationship. From whether to get married, what kind of wedding you’ll have, kids or no kids, how many kids, where to live, when to buy a house, what kind of house to buy, how to handle finances,
By Ashley McIlwain Love. What does that word even mean? These days it seems no one really knows anymore. When you ask someone what they believe love to be, oftentimes you get a description of euphoric, idyllic feelings that sound like a chapter out of a romance novel or a scene from the latest chick
By Ashley McIlwain I’m going to get very honest and candid with you. I struggle with major feelings of inadequacy. Spanning from my work to my friendships to my marriage, I constantly battle the feeling that I fall so short of what I should be. That I’m a complete failure and will never measure up.
By Coleen York There seems to be a rumor going around that it’s not okay to be not okay. That it’s not okay to need help, to feel to the extreme, or to even not know what to do. Somewhere along the line we have believed that in order to be worth the approval and
By Dr. Jeff Klick Over the last thirty years or so, I have heard this question from both men and women as they sat in my office crying. My spouse doesn't love me anymore, so what's the point? Just as frequently I hear, "I don't love them anymore," from the spouse that wants to leave.
