By Ashley McIlwain I love you. Those are perhaps three of the most powerful words we can ever speak to someone, and they are perhaps three of the most powerful words that can ever be spoken to us. We all long to be loved. We were created to be in relationship and experience the richness
By Ashley McIlwain What happens when your spouse disappoints you? What if you’re not happy in your marriage, and you’re convinced there are greener pastures awaiting you? What if what you thought you signed up for with your spouse and marriage doesn’t exactly align with reality? What if your spouse doesn’t deserve your love? What
By Ashley McIlwain September thirteenth was Steve’s and my fifth wedding anniversary. Everyone says it will, but it’s still hard to believe how quickly that time has flown by. In a blink of an eye, we’ve found ourselves five years in, celebrating the love we’ve shared, the memories we’ve created, and the commitment we’ve held
By Ashley McIlwain We are all motivated to do things for various reasons. Money, success, fitness, status, stuff, popularity. Whatever the motivation, we all find some purpose to fuel our day-to-day behaviors and choices. What about in your relationship or marriage? What fuels your actions there? Your spouse asks you to take out the trash
By Ashley McIlwain Inevitably, as a couple, you will make many big decisions during the course of your relationship. From whether to get married, what kind of wedding you’ll have, kids or no kids, how many kids, where to live, when to buy a house, what kind of house to buy, how to handle finances,
By Ashley McIlwain One of the most exciting parts of a new relationship is the chase. Like a lion meticulously pursuing its next victim, we pursue that special someone with purpose and conviction. It’s fun, thrilling, and makes you feel desirable. As we try to win the affections of that special someone, we are enamored
By Dr. Jeff Klick Over the last thirty years or so, I have heard this question from both men and women as they sat in my office crying. My spouse doesn't love me anymore, so what's the point? Just as frequently I hear, "I don't love them anymore," from the spouse that wants to leave.
By Ashley McIlwain See below for a special GIVEAWAY too ... How do we win at love? It’s a simple enough question, yet the answer seems to evade so many of us. I mean, we search and try, fight and conquer, but yet, somehow it slips from our grasp. After all, we can’t help who
By Ashley McIlwain Many times falling in love is equated with a leap of faith, and with good reason. It can be scary jumping head first into a relationship let alone a marriage. After all, you are about to make yourself completely vulnerable, which also means leaving yourself completely open to getting hurt. Giving your
By Ashley McIlwain Foreword: A Letter to Newlyweds was inspired by my sister’s recent marriage. As I began thinking about the things I wanted to say to her and her husband about marriage, I found myself frantically writing. Nowadays marriage seems to be entered into lightly, ignorantly, and with little preparation, and as a result,
